No secret here: how executives present themselves and the way they react determines the response from those with whom they interact. Almost instinctively, they can inspire enthusiasm and pride or trigger a sense of urgency. But when they provoke an unwarranted sense of guilt or blame by unchecked emotional responses, they fail themselves and weaken their enterprise. I’ve faced this with a few of the clients I’ve served and, I’ve faced it myself. Kill the messenger! Think of it; when we’re confronted with unexpected negative results, if undisciplined, our vocal reaction reflects our concern. We bristle and then we drill—"How could this happen," "Didn’t anyone see this coming?" "Why didn’t someone tell me sooner?" The "messenger" may bear some of the responsibility but not all and likely doesn’t have answers to our open ended questions. But he or she has the "honor" of experiencing our first reaction. Left unchecked, such negative patterns of response have consequences. Cup half full: Most folks I’ve met along the way know to tell the truth but some had to adapt to their environment by parsing it out instead of serving it up on a platter. Cup half empty: I’ve also known a few who "dripped" the truth in the interest of their own self-preservation. In both cases, the enterprise suffered. A few examples: • A CEO had an unchecked reaction to bad news; it ranged between bellowing and anger. He didn’t understand why he was always the "last one to find out." The explanation for that was easy: his team had withdrawn, preferring not to be targets and their initiative had been snuffed in the process. I temporarily filled in as "messenger," acting as a mirror for the CEO. Eventually, he got it, and while there were still flash points from time to time, his team no longer withdrew. • The CFO of a five-state multi-plant manufacturing company reviewed preliminary financial statements with the CEO before doing the same with the management team. The company was not performing well and the meetings with the CEO became very painful. Results were consistently worse than expected and the CEO’s emotional reactions effectively "shamed" the CFO who in turn, began ‘dripping’ the results, forcing the ops team into the line of fire. • Not an exclusive club for CEOs. A VP of sales with a major ego believed he alone was carrying the enterprise and could not take "no" from his sales team. Repeatedly he would reject their reports that the company was not price competitive and opportunities had been lost. The sales team began to "drip" information, e.g., "the customer has delayed their decision, they said they’ll order next quarter," etc. The pipeline drained and the VP was exited. When our own behavior patterns provoke avoidance and cause others to filter the information we require, everyone loses. I’ve learned to laugh at small crises and try to teach others to do the same. Where possible, I also try to elevate perceptions of problems (beyond the personal) to inspire more comprehensive solutions. Yet to this day, there is a 50/50 chance that when confronted with game changing negative news, my first response will be to emote. Fortunately, my second response will always be, "Sorry, this isn’t about you—let’s start again from the beginning.’ One of the greatest rewards of leadership are the "high 5s" we get to share for extraordinary accomplishments. Least rewarding is when we are surprised by negatives of significant consequence. Our reaction in those moments can easily influence future communications from our "messengers." In this case…it’s all about us! Lesson learned.
Arrogance can be a dangerous trait. It can blind one to unintended consequences and put many at risk. And it’s not a characteristic reserved only for individuals; organizations are fully capable of behaving arrogantly, as well. Pushback and failures can serve as wake-up calls; seeing our reflections through the eyes of others can do the same. Not all of us feel obliged to reshape our leadership style when confronted with such circumstances, but for those of us that do, the journey is humbling. My arrogance began as a shield for insecurity and wasn’t tested until I was president of a manufacturing company. In that role, I visited a potential midwestern-based supplier, a subsidiary of a Fortune 500, at their invitation. At the time, our company was in great shape and we had a longterm contract with our major customer. I had little interest in visiting this supplier—and it showed. On the plant tour I was critical of the operations; in the conference room, I insinuated that our hosts may be copying some of our IP; and at dinner, I was caustic. Finally, in the middle of the meal, the president of our host stood up, threw his napkin on the table, said “I can’t take this any more,” and walked out. The next morning, with little conversation, our hosts drove us to the airport. I had been railroaded out of town and I owned the result. I was humbled. Here’s another example of arrogance in action: A client of mine had manufactured a family of parts for a Fortune 500 company since the parts were first designed. The client always performed—excellent quality and on-time delivery. Periodically, but not annually, the client would raise prices modestly to help cover increases in material and labor costs not regained through efficiencies. The time came when the customer said they would not accept a price increase and in fact demanded a reduction of 7% the first year and 2% per year after that. With respect, my client declined and the customer insisted they send in a team of engineers to show my client how the cost reductions could be accomplished. With quiet confidence, my client declined the offer and the customer moved to another supplier. Six months later, the customer returned, accepted the last price increase offered and shifted the business back. And another: The president of a major northeast distributor had made the decision to sell his business. He retained a well-known ‘banker’ to assist in that process. We had done most of the preparation, including writing the offering memorandum, leaving the banker to use his connections to find prospective buyers and ultimately run the “auction” process. While a senior executive of the bank had sold us on his team’s merger and acquisition skills, a relatively new employee was assigned to manage our process. The first potential buyer visited and, after a facilities tour, we sat together in the president’s office, he behind his desk and the potential buyer, the junior banker and me on the other side. Three of us were fully engaged in Q&A and initial negotiations; the overconfident junior banker was not. He sat off to the side reading a financial paper and never engaged at all. Once the buyer left, we told the banker his services were no longer required. Just one more: In negotiating with a team of businessmen from the Far East, an executive failed to rein in his arrogant behavior. His stride, his disregard for detail, his lack of respect in listening, and the abruptness of his responses quickly alienated him; he was tolerated solely for business purposes. Once a draft contract was reached, bound by a non-disclosure agreement already in place, all present reaffirmed there would be no public disclosure of the arrangement without the other party’s consent. It took less than 12 hours after departing for the executive to issue a press release without consent. I had remained behind and was called to a special meeting with the businessmen to “explain.” They were respectful to me but not about him. We concluded our meeting on good terms and they gifted me with a translation of one of their more descriptive expressions: “Once a stone, always a stone.” The path from arrogance to servant leadership has many obstacles, the biggest one being oneself. The arrogant corporation that had demanded price reductions changed for my client’s sake, but went on to alienate much of its critical supply base. The junior banker was able to rein in his overconfidence and the “stone” remained a “stone.” For me, the embarrassment and shame I felt when called out for my behavior served as a mirror into which I’ve looked many times since. I came to realize arrogance was a shield, not a leadership trait. Not all complete the journey to servant leadership. For me, it is a path worth following and I travel it every day. Lesson learned.
Perhaps one of these scenarios will resonate with you. Family controlled – While still in high school, the founder’s son decided to pursue a career dramatically different from the family business and he did just that, first acquiring the academic credentials and then entering the job market some 400 miles from home. The work was fulfilling but the compensation was not and with one child and another on the way, the son soon returned ‘home’ to work in his father’s business. The first few years were a learning experience, Gradually overcome by his inspiration that he should be running the business, the son pressed hard, first for an executive title, then for his father’s BMW in exchange for his own Toyota and ultimately, for his father’s office. The father’s love masked what was happening. Eventually, several key executives left, one to work for a competitor, profits became losses and the business was sold for half the value it commanded ten years’ prior. Closely controlled – A chief operating officer had run the closely controlled business for more than 18 years. He was essentially the de facto president, and even though there was a named CEO, he performed those duties as well. He had a record of continuous growth and profitability. Over time, the company’s handful of shareholders yielded all control to the COO, essentially disconnecting from the business having been ‘sold’ by his record of results. And then…the business was disrupted by a dynamic change in market conditions. A regimented management style that worked so well in the past no longer got the same results. Even so, the COO kept doing it harder! The disconnected shareholders were not able to contribute and, too late, stopped trusting that ‘it will come back.’ New management with new skills was brought in but the clock had run out. The business was sold in distress. Public company – A flamboyant president of a manufacturing subsidiary produced modest growth in revenues year after year and profits that grew disproportionately faster. The performance was personally worth it; his defined bonus plan payout became more lucrative with each year that passed. He was happy, senior management was happy and the shareholder reports frequently featured the subsidiary’s strength. To some not connected to the subsidiary, something didn’t seem right. Their focus turned to inventory. It had tripled over the course of three years but revenues had not done the same. A subsequent special audit showed it had been grossly overpriced to mask manufacturing losses and that the subsidiary’s controller, at the president’s direction, had supported the practice. Both were fired and the parent company took a $1millon+ write-off. Family controlled – A son, well-educated and well trained in the family business was appointed president as his father moved towards retirement. The son’s vision was to expand the enterprise well beyond its regional footprint and he began doing so through multiple, capital intensive initiatives. From the sidelines the father had concerns but when he raised them, his son pushed back and the father would retreat. It took just over two years for the vise to close. The business became cash constrained and couldn’t support its expanded operations; its lender lost confidence in the son, capped the credit line and then pushed the company into work out. The father came back in, did what he could to right the ship and rebuild the lender’s confidence but both failed at both initiatives. Chapter 11 followed ending with a discounted asset sale. Closely controlled – An executive was known to be curt, impolite, and even rude to some of the women in the organization and worse, he was also known to be inappropriately amorous to others in both word and action. His reputation was well known in the ‘office’ but not by his supervisor (the president), a personal friend. Eventually a woman who was a target of his amorous approach shared her concerns with another executive. By doing so the matter was brought to the board of directors which in turn then confronted the president. The latter agreed to ‘talk to him.’ Months passed and another incident was reported – again from the president…’I’ll talk to him.’ This time the board wanted confirmation and when they didn’t get it, they acted on their own. The offending executive was encouraged to seek other employment and sometime thereafter, for other reasons, the president was relieved of duty. Public company – A division prided itself as having the best and brightest game changers in the industry to serve its blue chip customers. These highly skilled individuals always solved the customer’s problem, were highly paid to do so and generated an enviable gross margin on almost every job they undertook. The problem was…they only did this about 40% of the time; the under absorption of their cost more than offset the margin they generated resulting in big losses. This dilemma was obvious to the board of directors and meeting after meeting they prodded the CEO to remedy the problem, either by generating more revenue with the same staff or reducing the staff. New customers didn’t come easy; the selling cycle was long and worse, the CEO seemed to have an affinity for each of his highly skilled game changers. He effectively refused to act and in time the board was forced to; the division was folded as was the CEO. Bad optics. Turn a blind eye. Suffer the consequences. Lesson learned.
While in graduate school I worked in an upscale men’s store. The store had two master tailors from Eastern Europe, both in their mid-70s, Aaron and Isaac—they had been there for many years. The tailor shop was very small, maybe 12 feet by 20 feet, cluttered with sewing machines, ironing boards plenty of garments and a steam press. One day. Aaron and Isaac stopped talking to each other. For months, they coexisted in that small space, never saying a word to each other and for months, all of us who worked there tried to broker a ‘peace.’ Years later, as president of a manufacturing company I was looking for a way to improve the work experience for employees. The plant was arranged by work center and our employees usually ate at their work benches. My idea: convert an underutilized space into a break/lunch area. It worked like a charm! Folks got to interact outside of their work area—including Bennie and Alex, a German immigrant. Turns out, both fought in WWII. As they got to know each other they discovered that Bennie’s outfit had captured Alex’s in the war and they stopped speaking. No one could broker a peace. Sound familiar? In all of our social experiences, we inevitably will find two or more individuals who discover they can’t agree on something and then, instead of changing subjects or mixing back into the crowd, they persist in trying to convince the other that their views are without merit. My point: Folks don’t need our help to find reasons to disagree. Which brings me to discussing politics in the workplace. Our goal as executives is to build a like-minded culture in pursuit of the organization’s goals. That’s where our influence should stop. Maybe they do exist, but it’s hard to imagine an enterprise having politically like-minded employees. More likely, there is a spectrum of interests and priorities ranging from healthcare to national security to entitlement programs and more. Tempting - because of our leadership roles, some will seek our viewpoints. Risky – if we give them we add to the polarization that comes with the political season. When asked I’m likely to respond with “you know, I’ve some catching up to do, I haven’t really been tuned in,” or “Right now I’m trying to be a good listener” or, “I’m still processing” and, if asked about a specific candidate I try to say something respectful but neutral. As in the cases of Aaron and Isaac and Bennie and Alex, folks don’t need any help from us in finding reasons to disagree. Our job, regardless of the subject matter, is to prevent internal disruption by preserving mutual respect and support. If you’re in an executive position, communication about economic policies and their influence on the enterprise is essential. But when it comes to political issues and candidates, my advice is to keep silent, or at least stay generic. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but no one should feel compelled to adopt ours. It’s best for the business that we mind our own business. As for Aaron and Isaac, they made their peace, and we never did find out what issue had splintered them. Bennie and Alex never spoke again. Lesson learned.
Some things you just don’t learn from books. For this CEO, recognizing and understanding unique or unusual behavioral patterns is one of them. It’s an acquired skill which in his view, when respected, can enhance leadership.
Having a discernible energy or presence won’t help anyone make better decisions; it can however significantly contribute to the investment their team makes in them as a leader.
Our customers and clients place expectations on us and expect that we will meet them or exceed them and let them know ahead of time if we won’t. Don’t we deserve as much? Only if we ask!